Thank you for your answer. Experts say different things and prescribed different medicaments. we realy dont know what to do and whom to listen

You don’t need to use strong chemicals to clean up after your dog – vinegar will do the job.  Any kind of vinegar – Wal Mart has Cleaning Vinegar which has a lower pH, and it is found in the grocery section with all the other vinegar.  You can mix the vinegar with water, 1/3 vinegar, 2/3 water.  This neutralizes the smell of urine, and kills bacteria/germs.  The vinegar smell disappears as it dries.  You can use the same mix to rinse her off when she has an accident – just stand her in the tub, hose her off with plain water, then using a squirt bottle, work the vinegar and water mix into her coat to deodorize her.

Are you taking her out to pee just before she goes into her crate at night?  Have you taken her to a vet to see if she has a bladder infection?  Many dogs don’t like to pee on decks or balconies and so they hold it as long as they can – which can lead to bladder infections.  In a 15 year old dog, even the stress of a new home can lead to complications in her health.

Have you considered dog diapers?  There are several brands out there for dogs that can not control their bladders – so you would walk her, then put her into her crate with a diaper on.  You just have to pay attention that she does not develop a diaper rash or sores.

This girl has spent her entire life loving you – and she deserves the best you can offer to her.  Take her for a check up, and work to keep her comfortable, and with you. 

And last of all – don’t send her to die in a shelter.  At her age she will not be adopted and in the days before they kill her, she will be sad, depressed, and wondering where her people are.  Don’t condemn her to worry and confusion by giving her away.  If you truly can’t keep this girl after all that she has done for you, the least you can do is take her to a vet and have her put down while she is in your loving arms. 

That’s why I’m asking for advice/ solutions obviously I don’t want to give her away but given my condition and just everything going on with her I’m not even giving her the treatment she should be getting… And as far as I’m concerned this is not a site where you go and bash people for their situations and or judge given you don’t know me lol.

Look at some youtube videos about introducing harness or muzzles to your dog – use the same principles for the diapers. Zak George has a good one to watch. Let her sniff and treat. Then touch it to her and treat, lay it on her back and then treat. Treat then remove it. Treat then remove it, repeat, repeat, repeat. Work slowly until it is finally on place. Take it off and treat. Put it on- take it off and treat. Put it on, lure her to take a few steps , take it off and treat. Repeat. Good luck.

I have found that as a dog ages they just can’t hold it long enough any more. Even older dogs usually take to paper training. Maybe you could try that. My Rheana is 17 and now lives in the corner of the couch. When she wants down she scratches my leg or the corner of the couch. She can no longer make the trek through the house to go out the doggy door. At 15 I was able to paper train her and she now goes on a piece newspaper under the coffee table only a foot away.

Your vet should have dog toothpaste for sale, over the counter.  Give that a try?

It can take 3 months or more for a full coat to grow back in.  A premium diet is key to a good coat – I recommend you go grain-free too.  Most dogs don’t digest grains well, and grains can impact their immune system enough that they will develop allergies (usually allergies don’t appear until the dog is 2 years old or more, but why not take measures now to help keep your dog in tip-top condition?).

Go to a good pet store (not a grocery store or big box store) and ask to be shown to the grain-free dog food.  Then start reading the labels – You want a food that lists real meat as the first 2 or 3 ingredients.  Real meat is easy to spot – it will say elk, bison, turkey, pork, lamb, salmon meal (meal is the entire animal ground up and dried), whitefish meal, etc.  Avoid beef and chicken – many dogs are reactive to those two proteins.

Do NOT buy any food that contains ‘by products’ – this is an indication that you will pay a premium price for a poor quality product.

Read the ingredients of treats too and use ones that are grain-free.

Call the vet that did the surgery and see what they say about this.

Oh your poor boy!  I think I’d call the vet and see if this could be medical, first.

VET.

This sounds like she has an obstruction.  She needs a vet, NOW.  Ignoring this will have dire consequences, please don’t delay.