HI Shiria,
First, very sorry to hear your cat died. My thoughts and sympathies are with you.
When a pet dies like this, it is normal for us to think it was our fault, or something we could have prevented. It sounds like you went above and beyond with vet care and did everything you could have done for your cat. Surgery is always risky, but so is choosing to not do it and see what happens.
I’d take comfort in knowing that you gave this kitty a longer life by helping her the best you could.
I’m sure that your cat would have wanted to have every option at living and it sounds like that is what you gave her. It sounds like from what your vet found inside of her, that she was very very sick. Like you said, she seemed fine and didn’t show any signs of old age. But animals are not like people, they hide illness very well till the bitter end. She sounds like she was a wonderful kitty.
I’m sorry things didn’t work out and sorry for your loss,
~kelly
Hello,
It sounds like your cat needs to be seen by your vet. Any changes in how she normal acts (ie, wanting more attention, swollen sides, eating more,etc…) .
I hope that she is ok!
~kelly
thank you kelly — I’m hoping my vet can see her tomorrow morning