Hello,
I’m sorry to hear about all of the issues you have had with your cat and the ability to find meaningful help. I know how hard it can be.
I think that a few things need to be discussed.
1. I feel it is really important that you talk to the vets who failed you and your cat. Here’s why. You and your cat are still alive and I fear too many others would not have had the same fate. If you don’t tell that to these vets they will keep on writing off pets and breaking their humans hearts. I honestly don’t know why we just don’t help people and stop killing pets we refuse to help.
2. Keep practicing palapating your cat so you can monitor urine and fecal output.
3. It sounds like this might be Ivdd in your cat. Which would also mean it can improve and your cat might regain function. For these cases I recommend cage rest and at home physical therapy. Try to keep massaging the legs and work on strengthening and supporting the body.
4. Keep your cat in a safe place. No jumping or falling. That’s why we call it strict cage rest.
5. I do think that these guys do have enough quality of life to stay with their family. If they can eat, drink, urinate and defecate and you can provide them a happy life then it’s ok they aren’t perfect.
PS if he’s struggling with the box put a small amount of litter on a puppy pad. That might help.
This happened to my dog many times with the same result. They have always been fine. Of course I don’t know what kind of frog this was, or your pet’s medical history or condition, so please keep an eye on your pup and call your vet with any questions or concerns